You know, we have thought about adoption, and we would both like to pursue that one day. But, now is not the time. As it is, IVF happens to be a more affordable option. Because we have the frozen embryos, it is only $3800 per cycle. Yes, we have already spent about $20,000 between the two attempts. But, adoption can be double that. And, aside from the costs, we just know that we aren't ready to start the adoption process. Marty and I still hold on to the hope of having a (or a few) biological child. If we use all of our frozen embryos and never have one, that will be ok, but right now we can't just walk away from 5 Grade A (at the time they were frozen) embryos. If we had done the first cycle and not had any to freeze, we probably would have moved on to adoption. But, I can't just leave my frozen potential babies and not go back to them. Yes, I may be slightly emotionally attached to them. Is that weird? Possibly.
I have even had people ask if we have ever really tried on our own. I mean, what?! Do you think we just said, hey let's go to a fertility doctor to try to have a baby because that has to be easier than having sex? Because what man doesn't want to ejaculate in to a cup with a male nurse waiting outside the door as opposed to having sex with his wife. And, because you know I just love giving myself injections. The answer is yes, we have tried. I have tried putting my feet on the headboard after sex. I have done everything short of standing on my head for an hour trying to help out Marty's sperm. I have pumped myself full of artificial hormones. We have tried.
Some people just don't get it. Period.